It’s a lesson I wish I learned sooner. Sometimes you just, no matter which choice is made, lose. How I handle that has changed over the years. I used to be paralyzed when faced with a “trolley problem.” Now, that’s not the case. I try to make an informed decision, with all the information I can possibly gather, no matter what. I try not to make split decisions.
Do I still make impulse decisions? Of freaking course. I’m human, I make mistakes, it happens. But I try to atone for those in the moment instead of covering them up. I feel that the general consciousness has accepted that “cancel culture” isn’t toxic, and justified. And to some extent, perhaps, it is justified. But there’s a limit, too. We need to give people more grace and the space required to actually make a change…. not constantly break them down.
Look, any loss is tough. Losing something or someone you care about, or that you rely on, is tough. It’s heartbreaking, even traumatizing. But the reality is, well, that’s life. Life’s amazing, but also sucks. It keeps you on your toes. Keeps you humble. And for me, at least, that’s what makes it worth it.
My advice? Make mistakes. Learn from them and don’t make them again. Do something crazy with your friends. Understand that sometimes, you just don’t win. Process the loss, get back up, and go take the bull by horns and go freaking win. I mean it.
